Menopause Secret #1 to Bee Happy

It’s possible to Bee Happy before, during, and after menopause, if you follow these 7 Secrets.  Cheri and I, your Queen Bees, have been letting go of emotions which do not serve us and forgiving ourselves for having those emotions and the emotions for over 15 years with tremendous joyful results.  This is why we have this as our first secret of our 7 Secrets to Bee Happy.

Many women over 45 have a lot of “I Can’t”  beliefs, thoughts and emotions which are not allowing them to experience true happiness during their second adulthood. We have a free Video Series called the Happiness Gap which explains why this happens to many of us. We turn 45 or so, then “BAM” it happens- CHANGE! All types of change- physical,  personal, business, and relationships. With this change comes uncertainty. We start asking ourselves, What is next? We want to feel fulfilled and happy for the next 40 to 50 years of our lives. We want to believe the best is yet to come. How do we do it?

Secret 1-You learn to let go, forgive and make your joy a priority.
What you think about you bring about.

We’ve been there and done that when it comes to setting your life up to bee happy, feel fulfilled and at peace. Let us help you to let go and forgive to bee happy. Check out our Free Video Series called “The Happiness Gap” to support you in understanding why this time of your life is not the happiest and how you can turn all of that around.

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Cheri and Vicki are your Queen Bees and co-founders of Queen Bee Biz. As Ambassadors for Happiness, they support amazing women over 40 to be emotional ready to have fun and bee happy before during and after the “Big Change”. Go from Grumpy to Happy in 60 seconds! Click here to show you how!

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What? – Put Yourself First!?

I get up, put the coffee on, get dressed and ready for work. Cook breakfast (maybe). Take food out of the freezer for tonight. Wake up my husband. Why is it I’m waking him up? He’s a grown man!

Off to work. I like my work. it is a way to get out of the house and use my brain. Not sure I like the hours and lack of flexibility, though.

I need to remember to pick up the dry cleaning before I go to my charity board meeting. So much for cooking dinner tonight. I’ll pick up some fast food on the way home from my meeting.

Dinner at 7:30 pm. I really hate eating so late. At this rate, I’ll never get rid of the extra 15 pounds I’ve put on over the years. No matter what I do, it seems to stick to me. It is depressing to see how my body is changing with age. Yuck! I have good intentions of exercising on a regular basis. I’m just too tired by the time I get out of work, serve on my charities, take care of the house, and do the laundry. I don’t even have the energy or desire to play around with my husband any more.

DOES THIS SOUND LIKE YOU? If so, this article is for you.

The kids are grown and out of the house. You’d think there would be more time for yourself now. However, you are still in the mode of doing for others. It is an ingrained belief that as a woman, it is up to you to be the nurturer. That is the belief instilled in our generation, the Baby Boomers.

Pre, during, and post menopause has you looking at your life, wondering what you are to do now. You’ve spent your whole life taking care of the family and never having enough time for yourself. Now you take up your time with charities and other organizations. You enjoy doing this, however, you still keep putting yourself last.

Isn’t it time for you to Take The Time to do for you? Isn’t it time to put yourself first? All you have to do is get into a habit of taking care of YOU. You get to switch your belief and realize it is OK for you to do what you enjoy. It’s OK take a few minutes each and every day to do something special for YOU. It doesn’t have to be much. Maybe it’s 5 minutes, twice a day, meditating so you can feel more relaxed and calm. Meditation supports your mind and body to Bee Healthy and Happy. You will enhance your memory, be more focused, and calm.

Schedule 30 minutes or more to read, journal, or exercise. During menopause your body changes, so the more you do to feed your body with healthy foods and exercise, the better you’ll feel. Schedule it so you create a habit.

I found I had to commit to a schedule to make a habit, whether it was going to the gym before or after work, committing to stay off sugar, or meditating and journaling. Once I got into the habit, it became easier for me to keep up the “Me Time”.

Get a buddy to support you in creating your “Me Time” and you can support them in their “Me Time”. Have fun with it. Know you deserve to have fun and do for yourself. You’ve spent your whole life doing for others and now it is time for you to do for you. It is OK for you to put yourself first.

I know when I was in my 40’s, someone asked me “What do you want for you?” It took me 3 weeks to even come up with something. My life was work, kids, husband, house. I never took the time to think about me and what I wanted. I didn’t even know how to put myself first.

It was a struggle to realize it was OK for me put myself first. I had to get rid of the belief that I was being selfish if I wanted to do something for me, instead of cleaning the house or fixing dinner. It took a while to figure out how I could have a happy home and a happy me. First I had to be honest with myself and recognize how I felt, then I had to learn how to communicate those feelings with others in the household.

I had to learn to express my desires and wants so I could feel good about myself. Once I was able to communicate what I wanted, I was able to work with the family and get their support in taking on more of what I thought was up to me to get done. All I had to do was ask and let them know how I felt. I became Vulnerable. Wow, was that a challenge.

It is a matter of allowing others to take care of themselves and it doesn’t have to look the way you think it does. Let go of needing to control how something needs to be done and look, so you can enjoy YOU. After you get to be a certain age, you will realize the little things aren’t as important as they used to be. It’s ok for dust to be on the furniture and the floors don’t need to be cleaned EVERY day. So what if the bed HE made isn’t the way you would make it.

Relax, have fun. It is time for you to put yourself first so you can enjoy yourself!

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Cheri Hickman is the co-founder of Queen Bee Biz.  As a life coach and emotional releasing expert, she along with her business partner, Vicki Kallman, support women over 40 to Bee Happy before during and after menopause.  They take you from Grumpy to Happy in 60 seconds! Click here for  24/7 happiness.

As Ambassadors for Happiness, we support amazing women over 40 to be emotional ready to have fun and Bee Happy before, during, and after the “Big Change”. 4 Weeks to Muzzle the Menopause Mess!  Click here to show you how

Good Friends Let you Shine- Let the Sunshine In!

Before, during and after menopause, it is important to reconnect or find your like-mind gal pals or “hive”.  Support during this time of  change is a must. This is the time to share our wisdom and experience with those that we love.  You are not alone!

I remember when I was a little girl, I had best girlfriends that were always there for me. We laughed and played all day without a care in the world! When I was a teenager going through the ups and downs of high school, I had best friends to share my wins and loses.  In college, the pattern continued- it seemed I could do anything when I had girlfriends to support me.

Then I met and married my husband and had a family.  Life Happened! Girlfriends were not always on the top of my list of priorities. At other times in my married life, I found time for my “hive“.  Being military, we would move and I would have to find my “hive” again.  You know those gal pals that were going through the same daily stuff, as I was going through.  Those best friends would love me through my many moods and heartaches. In return,  I would do the same for them.

Ask a girl friend to lunch, join a group of like-minded gals, and notice how much happier you are because of this much needed connection!

This is the time of your life when you can slow down and smell the roses. Connect with your gal pals. Laugh about your menopause woos and how your life has changed. You will discover life actually is pretty great.

“Good Friends Let You Shine” -So let the sunshine in and find your “hive” and Bee Happy!

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Vicki Kallman is the co-founder of Queen Bee Biz.  As a life coach and emotional releasing expert, she along with her business partner, Cheri Hickman, support women over 40 to Bee Happy before during and after menopause.  They take you from Grumpy to Happy in 60 seconds! Click here for  24/7 happiness. 

Radiant Happiness!

What do I mean by Radiant Happiness? Have you ever met someone that just shines? They reek of vibrant happiness! You look at them and want what they have. They have a smile on their face that penetrates your soul. You can’t help yourself, you have to smile back.

What does it take to be radiantly happy? It is quite simple. Simple, yet maybe not so easy. It comes down to the thoughts you have. What are you thinking about most of the time. Are thinking happy thoughts? Are thinking about all the struggles you have in your life? What are you thinking about?

If you pay attention to what you are thinking, you will realize what I am talking about. I’ll find myself thinking, “I haven’t heard from him for a while, I wonder if he got in an accident”. What is that all about?! I think to myself, “Why am I even going there?” That’s not what I want to happen. Worry are thoughts about something that probably won’t ever happen, so why worry?

Pay attention to your thoughts and you can then turn them around from negative to positive in a nanosecond. If you have a negative thought, you can imagine a big red X through it and turn it around to what you WANT to happen. Not what you DON’T want to happen.

You put a meaning to every event that takes place in your life and that meaning determines if it supports you or doesn’t support you in your happiness. Have you ever been so happy that you have to have a huge, vibrant smile on your face? What was going on? What created that happiness? It was an event that took place in your life and you felt good about it. You had a happy thought. You felt the happiness and love.

Radiant Happiness comes from within. When you are happy with yourself, you love yourself, and you find joy and peace in your life, then you are able to share it with the world. It only has to do with you and how you feel about yourself. Keep happy thoughts no matter what is going on in your life. I’m not saying to ignore the ugly stuff that takes place, but find the good in it. Life happens. Go with the flow, so you can be at peace and spread Radiant Happiness.

How do you do this? You pay attention to your thoughts and you turn the negative thoughts around to positive thoughts. You give thanks for all that you do have in life. Being grateful for your life and everything and everyone in it, also supports Radiant Happiness. You discover how to “let go” of the negative so you can be positive. Our Queen Bee processes guide you through letting go so you can achieve Radiant Happiness.

Check out our Bee Happy Online Course to create your own Radiant Happiness.

ENJOY!

We would love to hear from you, please leave a comment in the comment section below!

Cheri Hickman is the co-founder of Queen Bee Biz.  As a life coach and emotional releasing expert, she along with her business partner, Vicki Kallman, support women over 40 to Bee Happy before during and after menopause.  They take you from Grumpy to Happy in 60 seconds! Click here for  24/7 happiness.

Let Go of Your Joy Busting Expectations – Holiday Tip #3

Holiday Tip #3 for Wonderful Experience!

Please view this video and you will learn:
You cannot control anyone’s happiness but your own!
“People are going to do what they are going to do, and they won’t do what they won’t do!”
Let go of trying to control anyone or anything this holiday!
Create new holiday traditions! We are never to old to do something different this year!

Allow the holidays to just flow and remember to Choose Happiness!
Tis the season for Love and Joy and make that a priority!

Happy Holidays from your Queen Bees!

We would love to hear from you, please leave a comment in the comment section below!

Cheri and Vicki are your Queen Bees and co-founders of Queen Bee Biz.  As Ambassadors for Happiness, they support amazing women over 40 to be emotional ready to have fun and bee happy before during and after the “Big Change”. Go from Grumpy to Happy in 60 seconds! Click here to show you how