If Only

The word “IF” is one of the most important, potentially powerful, yet dangerous words in the English language today. Using the word in the phrase “if only” is the dangerous part. You might be wondering how in the world can this tiny two letter word be dangerous.

In case you didn’t know, the word “IF” also creates the results you have in your life.

How do you use the word “IF”? Are you saying to yourself “If only I was smarter. If only I had the courage to stand up for myself” ?  If Only is a dangerous phrase for you to use because it causes you to feel inferior, undeserving, and afraid.

How’s that working for you? I ask you that in humor because I used to be full of “If Onlys”. Mine included: “If only I’d said NO, I would be pregnant at 17”. “If only I knew how to stand up for myself”. “If only I wasn’t embarrassed to tell my family about my abusive relationship”.  Those were causing a lot of, not so good, results in my life!

“If Only” is Dangerous!

Because you use it as an excuse to stay out of trouble, not be held accountable or responsible. It allows you to be “victim” to life. I got tired of living that life! If you are tired of living that life, you might want to know what to do about it. Right?! When you have low self esteem, you are allowing life to live you instead of you living life.  That might not make a lot of sense at this point, but you will understand better once I share the solution with you.

This tiny two letter word “IF” also has unlimited possibilities that can change eternity. Which means, you can change your life with the word “IF”. Once I realized every time you use the word “IF”, it coincides with the word “Choices”. You have a choice every time to make a decision. You make decisions every nano second of the day.

So, what do you do about it, you ask? You SWITCH! I was in an abusive relationship (because allowed myself to be). I can remember the exact moment I SWITCHED! I was in a precarious situation with bodily harm about to be done upon me. In a split second, I switched! I decided to do something different and be something different.

I CHOSE TO STOP BEING AFRAID!

In that exact moment “HE” knew I had changed. He gently put me down and never touched me again. My world had changed because I CHOSE different. I stopped being a victim and started living life instead of life living me.

Let me back up a minute. You’re asking, “HOW do I switch?” How about you stop the “If Only” routine and say “Wouldn’t it be Wonderful IF”? How does that feel? Now I wasn’t going around saying this phrase, however, I was imagining a better life for myself. When you switch your thoughts and images, you are retraining your brain. The more you switch from the “If Only” phrase, the more you are retraining your brain and more likely you are to make better choices.

“Wouldn’t it be Wonderful IF” Will Change Your Life!

Every time you switch from “If Only to Wouldn’t it be Wonderful If”, you are retraining your brain. As you retrain your brain for the positive, you will start to notice more positive results in your life. You’ll start having days that flow with ease, creating more peace and happiness in your life! All you have to do is be aware of the opportunities that show up for you and do something different with them. It’s your choice!

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