Don’t Forget Emotional Wellness

Last week, I did Adria Decorte’s Clarity Challenge. On day five, we all did a video about something you had an opinion on. My opinion was on the importance of emotional wellness. We are more then a physical body. We are also an emotional body. Sometimes we have to hold still and feel. Let go of what is not working for you and embrace the truth- You are whole perfect and complete!

Here is my video. Thank you Adria for a great week of clarity!


Vicki Kallman is the co-founder of Queen Bee Biz.  As a life coach and emotional releasing expert, she along with her business partner, Cheri Hickman, support women over 40 to Bee Happy before during and after menopause.  Join Cheri and Vicki on the Anti-Aging Get Away Cruise in March 2017. Click here for details!

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If Only

The word “IF” is one of the most important, potentially powerful, yet dangerous words in the English language today. Using the word in the phrase “if only” is the dangerous part. You might be wondering how in the world can this tiny two letter word be dangerous.

In case you didn’t know, the word “IF” also creates the results you have in your life.

How do you use the word “IF”? Are you saying to yourself “If only I was smarter. If only I had the courage to stand up for myself” ?  If Only is a dangerous phrase for you to use because it causes you to feel inferior, undeserving, and afraid.

How’s that working for you? I ask you that in humor because I used to be full of “If Onlys”. Mine included: “If only I’d said NO, I would be pregnant at 17”. “If only I knew how to stand up for myself”. “If only I wasn’t embarrassed to tell my family about my abusive relationship”.  Those were causing a lot of, not so good, results in my life!

“If Only” is Dangerous!

Because you use it as an excuse to stay out of trouble, not be held accountable or responsible. It allows you to be “victim” to life. I got tired of living that life! If you are tired of living that life, you might want to know what to do about it. Right?! When you have low self esteem, you are allowing life to live you instead of you living life.  That might not make a lot of sense at this point, but you will understand better once I share the solution with you.

This tiny two letter word “IF” also has unlimited possibilities that can change eternity. Which means, you can change your life with the word “IF”. Once I realized every time you use the word “IF”, it coincides with the word “Choices”. You have a choice every time to make a decision. You make decisions every nano second of the day.

So, what do you do about it, you ask? You SWITCH! I was in an abusive relationship (because allowed myself to be). I can remember the exact moment I SWITCHED! I was in a precarious situation with bodily harm about to be done upon me. In a split second, I switched! I decided to do something different and be something different.

I CHOSE TO STOP BEING AFRAID!

In that exact moment “HE” knew I had changed. He gently put me down and never touched me again. My world had changed because I CHOSE different. I stopped being a victim and started living life instead of life living me.

Let me back up a minute. You’re asking, “HOW do I switch?” How about you stop the “If Only” routine and say “Wouldn’t it be Wonderful IF”? How does that feel? Now I wasn’t going around saying this phrase, however, I was imagining a better life for myself. When you switch your thoughts and images, you are retraining your brain. The more you switch from the “If Only” phrase, the more you are retraining your brain and more likely you are to make better choices.

“Wouldn’t it be Wonderful IF” Will Change Your Life!

Every time you switch from “If Only to Wouldn’t it be Wonderful If”, you are retraining your brain. As you retrain your brain for the positive, you will start to notice more positive results in your life. You’ll start having days that flow with ease, creating more peace and happiness in your life! All you have to do is be aware of the opportunities that show up for you and do something different with them. It’s your choice!

Diet and Exercise for Your Emotional Body

Junk In, Junk Out!

You’re an emotional body, as well as, a physical body requiring a diet and exercise program to keep you in balance. Just like your physical body, if you feed it junk and don’t exercise regularly, you get unhealthy results.  The same happens with your emotional body. If you put unhealthy thoughts, emotions, and beliefs in it, you’ll continue to be frustrated, stuck and unhappy.  A balanced emotional body is the foundation for you to live the second half of your life with Peace, Purpose, and Happiness.

After the age of 45, your body starts to change (with The Change). Menopause symptoms vary with each individual. You may have hot flashes. One of the worse, annoying, frustrating symptoms that can last for up to 10 years! Some women experience dramatic mood changes. They don’t even know why they are so easily upset or angry. Hormones can be your worst enemy during this period of your life.

Your body starts to change

Those extra pounds seem impossible to get rid of. You’ll notice your skin becoming drier, flakey, sagging, and loose in places you don’t want it loose.

There are many ways to support you in your physical body and you probably know what most of them are. We are here to support you in your Emotional Body. When you discover how to get through Menopause emotionally, you can do what you need to for the physical body with ease.

Just for YOU!

We’ve created an amazing diet and exercise program for your emotional body using our simple, unique Queen Bee Processes, Online Courses, and live Presentations.  Cheri and Vicki have spent years discovering what works and what doesn’t work, so you can go through The Change with ease and joy!

We would love to hear from you, please leave a comment in the comment section below!

CLICK HERE for your 5 Fear-Free Facts to Stop Being Frustrated with Your Midlife Body!

Cheri Hickman is the co-founder of Queen Bee Biz. As a life coach and emotional releasing expert, she along with her business partner, Vicki Kallman, support women over 40 to Bee Happy before during and after menopause. They take you from Grumpy to Happy in 60 seconds!

Menopause: A Vicious Trick by Mother Nature

Menopause: How to Start Feeling Like Yourself Again. An article by skinnymom.com According to the Mayo Clinic, menopause is, “the permanent end of menstruation and fertility, defined as occurring 12 months after your last menstrual period.” According to women currently experiencing menopause, it’s actually an evil and viscous trick by Mother Nature. One in which your body almost instantly becomes unrecognizable, as you spend the next several years fighting mood swings and hot flashes, while praying to God that the medication you’re taking to help convince your body it’s actually 33 again, doesn’t give you breast cancer.

As unpleasant as menopause is, it’s a fact of life that every woman will eventually have to deal with.

So the question is, is there a way to get through menopause and still feel ‘normal’? While the idea of, ‘normal’ may vary from woman to woman, a study published through Harvard Health, shared a few ideas around dealing with the symptoms of menopause that just might help you feel like your old self again.

Hot flashes: Although hot flashes can begin before menopause is in full swing, this horrible side-effect can last anywhere from 3-5 years. Symptoms include pink or flushed face, an elevated body temperature, moderate to extreme sweating, night sweats and sleep disturbances. While there is no sure way to rid yourself of hot flashes completely, the following approaches are suggested to help alleviate:

  • Avoid triggers such as hot beverages, spicy foods, hot rooms, alcohol and stressful situations.
  • Dress in layers. This allows you to remove clothing when you become overheated and put them back on once your body has cooled.
  • Sleep with an ice pack under your pillow.
  • Keep your bedroom a few degrees cooler with a fan or portable air conditioner.
  • Reduce stress by doing yoga at night or performing 15 minutes of meditation before bed.

Queen Bee Biz’s take on this: We agree with what skinnymom.com is telling you to do. Along with that we have meditations available, plus other alternative solutions to deal with menopause.   Click here for those solutions!

Mood Changes: Because the estrogen in your body is decreasing, the lining of you vagina becomes thin, creating less natural lubrication in the area. The increased dryness can not only be uncomfortable in day-to-day situations, leading to irritation and inflammation, it can also make sexual intercourse quite unpleasant. To treat vaginal dryness, the following is suggested.

  • Use a vaginal lubricant regularly to treat dryness.
  • Use a vaginal moisturizer such as Replens, to help keep dryness at bay.
  • Use estrogen creams, rings and tablets, to stop dryness before it begins.

In addition to regular treatment, studies also suggest engaging in regular sexual stimulation to maintain vaginal health as well as elasticity. Queen Bee Biz’s take on this: I was excited to hear about this treatment.

Mood swings and depression: Due to the extreme shift in hormones, many women experience mood swings and depression. Try incorporating these habits to alleviate symptoms:

  • Get regular sleep.
  • Add exercise to your daily schedule; cardio and strength.
  • Add yoga to alleviate stress.
  • Incorporate herbal supplements such as St. John’s Wort to help give balance to mood swings.
  • Request a mild antidepressant from your doctor to raise serotonin levels and alleviate depressed feelings.

Queen Bee Biz’s take on this: Exercise is crucial during this time of your life! Vicki and Cheri exercise regularly and definitely notice the difference when they don’t. Even if all you do is walk for 30 minutes a day, it will help you in the long run. We are NOT fond of antidepressants, because we feel you can “retrain your brain” by following our Closing the Happiness Gap program. Click here.

Weight Gain: While it seems as though weight gain is a lifelong issue for most women, fighting the, ‘middle aged spread,’ during menopause is almost inevitable. To help you get your sexy back, here are a few suggested tips:

Add or increase exercise to your daily schedule.

  • Focus on cardio exercise; walking, running, swimming, to help prevent fat accumulation around the mid-section.
  • Eat healthy. Avoid processed foods, excess refined carbohydrates and excessive amounts of caffeine and alcohol.

Dry skin and hair: No matter what our age, as women we always like to keep our hair and skin in check. However, a decline in estrogen often causes both hair and skin to become a bit dry and dull. To combat, try the following:

  • Protect skin from the sun by using sun blocks, hats and protective clothing.
  • Use moisturizer daily to hydrate skin.
  • Use deep moisturizing conditioners regularly and avoid the overuse of heat styling.
  • Use the newest oils, both for skin and hair, to restore gloss and radiance.

Queen Bee Biz’s take on this: Your food intake creates most of the results you receive. Cheri had a heart attack in 2012 and keeps her blood thin, cholesterol in a good range, and blood pressure under control with her food combinations and supplements. She does NOT take any drugs! It can be done. Eating mostly plant based and organic will provide your body with the proper nutrients it needs to function to the best of it’s ability.

There is no, ‘cure’ for menopause and certainly no way to stop it from coming, you can still live a normal and happy life.

You may feel as though Menopause is a viscous trick by Mother Nature, however, by incorporating some of these tips, you can, at the very least, give a shout out to Mother Nature letting her know that she hasn’t quite gotten the best of you yet!

Queen Bee Biz’s take on this: Vicki and Cheri are committed to support women before, during, and after menopause. Mother Nature is not playing a trick on you! It is part of life. We’ve created specific programs containing the tools and techniques you need to deal with menopause. Check them out by clicking here.

We would love to hear from you, please leave a comment in the comment section below!

CLICK HERE for your 5 Fear-Free Facts to Stop Being Frustrated with Your Midlife Body!

Cheri Hickman is the co-founder of Queen Bee Biz. As a life coach and emotional releasing expert, she along with her business partner, Vicki Kallman, support women over 40 to Bee Happy before during and after menopause. They take you from Grumpy to Happy in 60 seconds! Click here for 24/7 happiness.

Quieting the Bitch! – Beliefs and Patterns Influence Behavior

Your life experiences create your beliefs and patterns.

Patterns, beliefs and customs influence behavior, which affect your dueling brain.  Change your beliefs and you change your world. Let’s STOP THIS MADNESS! Let’s quiet the Bitch!

Discover how to quiet the Bitch and awaken the Queen by retraining your brain. Stop focusing on what’s not working (negative thoughts) and start focusing on what’s working (positive thoughts). Wow, what if it really does work? (It does.) In the Post “Your Dueling Brains are Hijacking Your Happiness”, we shared a few tips on how to change your thoughts so you can create better results in your life.

Awareness is the first key to changing your thoughts.

It takes practice to implement this first step. I still catch myself thinking of what I don’t want. At least now I catch myself and can switch the thought to what I do want. Your brain is probably the most powerful tool you have. Learn how to master your brain and you will have mastered life. I believe there are only a very few people who are really good at this. You don’t have to be perfect, just keep practicing and you will get to experience more peace and joy than you might believe is possible.

Now we share a simple, empowering exercise you can use immediately to awaken the Queen! It is as easy as committing to 5 minutes a day to practice the “3 Happy Things a Day” exercise. Research reveals, after two weeks of doing this exercise, people become immediately happier and it is a lasting happiness. Yeah!

What is it you ultimately want in life?

If you come down to the core of it all, most people will say “to be happy”. You’ve had many years of influence that causes you to be unhappy in certain areas of your life. This is what creates your beliefs and patterns. By the time you are 8 years old you’ve formed up to 85% of all your beliefs! This means you are operating as an adult from the beliefs of an 8 year old.

The Bitch tends to take over and you may not even know why.

Practicing these simple exercises we’ve given you will put you on the path to quieting the Bitch and awakening the Queen.  There is no good reason for you to have your happiness decline. We’re here to make sure you have what you need to become happier in all areas of your life,

We’re sharing our first session of our Closing The Happiness Gap Sweet Success Package with you, so you can change your patterns, beliefs and customs! Click here for your free session!

We would love to hear from you, please leave a comment in the comment section below!

Cheri Hickman is the co-founder of Queen Bee Biz. As a life coach and emotional releasing expert, she along with her business partner, Vicki Kallman, support women over 40 to Bee Happy before during and after menopause. They take you from Grumpy to Happy in 60 seconds! Click here for 24/7 happiness.