Why Change A Belief?

I have known for years, that what we believe we achieve.  A lot of what we don’t want to have happen does because of our beliefs.  Such as, I am asthmatic; I am allergic to animals; if I eat this cookie it will make me fatter.  Can you relate to any of these?

Vicki and I have been sharing how to eliminate those beliefs, for the last few years, so you can create more happiness in your life.  If you truly believed you are not allergic to animals, you won’t be.  Since I started using our techniques,  I stopped having scratchy, runny eyes and sniffles when I am around cats.  I stopped being afraid of heights.  There are many more, but you get the idea. To discover some of the tools I used click here. We share with you how to use the tools that not only support you throughout your Menopause Mess, but with any issues you are having.

Research is now being done on how much our thoughts become things.  Another way to put it, is how our beliefs create the results we have in our lives.  I read this article written by Dr. Christiane Northrup and am sharing it with you.

“I’ve done a lot of research while writing my forthcoming book Goddesses Never Age: The Secret Prescription for Vitality, Wellbeing, and Radiance. One thing that kept coming up, over and over, is that a person’s beliefs about getting older affect him or her more profoundly than any other factor—genetics and lifestyle included. For example, did you know that most people actually believe you can’t get through life without some kind of on-going prescription medication? My 88-year-old mother, who takes no drugs whatsoever, was recently fined $500, because she hadn’t chosen a prescription drug plan with Medicare.

Incredible, but also a true story. This is our society’s and government’s (in the U.S.) outlook. Another thing our society seems to accept without question is the safety of pharmaceutical and over-the-counter drugs. I encourage you to read my blog and learn the truth about this issue.”
Christiane Northrup, M.D.

Your beliefs are the basis of all the results you have in your life.  To change those beliefs, you need to change the feelings / emotions that triggered those beliefs.  This is where Vicki and I support our clients in creating new results to be happy. It is our mission to share what we have discovered, so you can create the positive results you are meant to have in your life for happiness. It’s never too late to create more happiness in your life!  Click here to gain support in this area of your life.

Cheri Hickman, Joyologist

Cheri Hickman is the co-founder of Queen Bee Biz.  As a life coach and emotional releasing expert, she along with her business partner, Vicki Kallman, support women over 40 to Bee Happy before during and after menopause.  They take you from Grumpy to Happy in 60 seconds! Click here for  24/7 happiness.

Taking Care of YOU!

Menopause and Happiness happen when you take care of yoursellf!

Now that you are pre or during Menopause, do realize you’ve spent most of your life doing for others? It is a tendency for some of you to always do for others and never take care of yourselves.  I used to be that way.  Then I discovered that when I invested in myself, I was able to be more helpful to those around me.

You can too!  Take the time, effort, and money to take care of YOU and you will be amazed at how much more you can inspire, aid, and love the people around you.

Investing in yourself is like taking  a course in school to get a degree in whatever field of work you decide you would like to be more proficient.  Doesn’t it make sense for you to go to “school” in how to be a better you, in order to become more proficient in LIFE?

Menopause is a stage of life when a new awareness arises. You may not know what to do about your new discoveries. That’s what your Queen Bees are for. We focus on what is “Not Working” for you, so you can be the best you can be.  Usually, it’s only a tweak here and a tweak there. We have several online courses available to support you in gaining clarity, courage, and confidence to become the best you can be.  Our Joy Store displays a variety of Alternative Menopause Solutions for you to choose, to move forward and take care of YOU!  ENJOY!

Stop The Beatings!

Discouraged!?

Menopause seems to create an awareness of how you’ve been treating yourself over the last few decades. You realize how often you beat yourself up over the most ridiculous life events or not achieving what you want. Why is it that you feel you need to beat yourself up whenever you miss achieving a goal?  It is just a goal.  At least you are further ahead than you were when you set the goal.   If you had not had an idea and acted on it at all, you would still be where you were at the time you actually set the goal.

Changing your perspective on goal setting will help you get you where you want to be quicker.   It’s OK to miss your target date and miss your results.   It’s OK to negotiate your goal with yourself.   It’s not set in stone that it has to look a certain way.   Realizing that it’s OK to change your goal or allowing it to be different than you thought it would be, helps you to be more relaxed about goal setting.  It also almost always looks different than you thought it would and that is usually a blessing.

If you don’t set a goal because you are afraid you will disappoint yourself, then you are keeping yourself in a rut.   Rut standing for “being in a coffin with the ends cut out”.  You go nowhere.  Act on your ideas and see where they land.   If nothing else you took action that will create growth, understanding, and knowledge for you to store in your experience database. When you are pre or during menopause, you start wondering what you have done with your life and are ready for a change.  Be courageous and step out of your box.  Go for the change.  It’s OK.

Be confident that you are worth the risk of setting a goal and going for it.  Be confident that you will at least have experiences that reveal new information.   Be confident that you will have a new or better perspective on what it is that you desire.  Even if you decide that you want something totally different, it’s OK.   You’ll find that unless you act upon your ideas and dreams, you’ll go nowhere.   View failure as a stepping stone to success.  Without failure there is no success.

Stop the beatings, change your perspective, trust that you are worth making mistakes so you can grow into being the person you want to be.  By becoming someone you’ve never been before you achieve something you’ve never achieved before. In the “midlife” stage you’ve acquired a wealth of knowledge and experience.  It’s time for you to go for it. We support you to gain the courage and clarity you need to move forward and go for your dreams. Go to our Joy Store and see our online courses for Alternative Solutions to the Menopause Mess.

We would love to hear from you, please leave a comment in the comment section below!

Cheri Hickman is the co-founder of Queen Bee Biz.  As a life coach and emotional releasing expert, she along with her business partner, Vicki Kallman, support women over 40 to Bee Happy before during and after menopause.  They take you from Grumpy to Happy in 60 seconds! Click here for  24/7 happiness.

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Are You Stuck, Again?

Stuck again!

When it comes to making positive changes in your life,  do you get stuck? It seems you know you must, should, or have to do something different, however,  it just becomes too difficult to move forward. It is like you are walking slowly up hill in deep sand! The next thing you know, you feel exhausted and get stuck. Do you feel this happens more times than not when you set a goal? Let’s find out the root of this frustrating behavior. 
In all my years of coaching people through their personal growth process, the greatest stumbling block to achieving rapid change and growth is this….we won’t give up our old patterns and beliefs.  Even people who really want to change often have trouble because they will not give up their old familiar ways of being and doing!

I call this resistance. Resistance is insidious. It is the “show stopper”. It stops you from  having, doing, and being what you want in life. Menopause is a time in your life when you are ready to make huge changes and then those changes bring up fears that cause you to resist. Using our tools and techniques allow you to get unstuck, let go of those resistance beliefs and move forward to more Happiness in your life. Click here to find out more about how to let go of resistance.

It is always beneficial to be reminded when you are in resistance. Knowing this will allow you to become aware that your non-productive, old beliefs are still hanging around and stopping you from easily moving forward in your life.
 Sadly, resistance is a natural response to trying to make a positive change. However, you probably would not have set a goal for yourself, unless there was something you wanted to change or improve in your life. Unfortunately, resistance gets in the way.  Resistance is a little like the glue which holds all our limitations or suffering in place. As you are working on completing a new goal, you may hit layers of resistance. It may even take the form of “forgetting” you even had the goal or losing interest in it altogether. This is where learning to “let go of your old beliefs and patterns” will really pay off.

Would you rather have your goals and your freedom, or would you rather have the false security of clinging to your old painful emotions, beliefs, or patterns? It is really your choice! Remember, resistance is just a feeling. What you resist persists! And it keeps you stuck…

Resistance is operating 24/7 because we live in a Sea of Should’s, Have To’s, Must Do’s and imperatives! Imperatives or commands- stir up resistance. It is like the world is pushing on you and you are pushing back. It becomes quite exhausting and stressful. Maybe, it is time to “let go” and stop pushing back!

Letting go of your past beliefs and resistance is not always easy. I love this story.
A man fell over a cliff and he is hanging onto a branch sticking out from the cliff for dear life. He screams out,”Is there is a God, help me?” He hears aloud reply, “YES!” He cries out, again, “What should I do?” God answers, “Let Go!” Then the man replies again, “Is there anyone else up there I can ask for help?” HA!

Remember resistance is wanting to make changes using your old beliefs which keep you stuck with shattered dreams.  Notice using this method has not given you the results you would like. Einstein shared, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.” Could it be time do something different? Letting go of the resistance, old patterns and beliefs and embracing the I Can beliefs, will allow you to have more energy to achieve your dreams.

“Sometimes we must become someone we have never become before, to achieve something we have never achieved before.”

You can only do this by letting go of your old beliefs and I can’t emotions, so your new beliefs and I can emotions can take over. In the process, you can have better health and relationship, more wealth, and just be happy! Why not put the flow back into your life? Stop being Stuck!

We would love to hear from you, please leave a comment in the comment section below!

Cheri Hickman is the co-founder of Queen Bee Biz.  As a life coach and emotional releasing expert, she along with her business partner, Vicki Kallman, support women over 40 to Bee Happy before during and after menopause.  They take you from Grumpy to Happy in 60 seconds! Click here for  24/7 happiness.

Emotions – Do you have them?

You have 4 emotions and the first 3 don’t work.   Any time you have emotions you need to “Let them Go” otherwise all you are doing is poisoning your body.  How do you handle emotions? Do you stuff them, ignore them, or express them?

When you do any of the 3 prior ways of handling emotions, you still have them.   This will hinder you in certain areas of your life that affect your life each and every day.  Do you struggle with relationships, health, or finances?   If you do, then you are holding onto emotions that are causing these struggles.  Menopause stages seem to enhance many emotions.  You never know what is going to hit you next.

When someone pushes your buttons and you figure “Oh well, they really didn’t mean to be nasty to me.   I know they love me, and they just don’t realize how they are coming across”.  You are justifying what happened.   You had a negative feeling about what was said or done, yet kept quiet about it.   So you either stuffed it down or ignored it.   Ignoring it doesn’t mean it has gone away.   If you are honest with yourself, you will realize that you are still carrying some kind of hurt or grudge about what was said or done.   Maybe you got angry and expressed that anger.  Venting is also still hanging onto the emotion.   You might think you feel better, but when the very same incident happens again, you get angry all over, right?   So how is you think you let go of the emotion by venting?  You didn’t!

“Letting Go” is the only true way to rid yourself of the negative emotion, so you can be “Happy”.  You allow yourself to feel the emotion, because that is only human.  Once you are aware that you are having the emotion, then you use one of our techniques to “let it go”.   Sounds easy, however, the key is to first recognize that you are having a negative emotion.   Awareness is the first step in letting go of the emotion.

The awareness and “Letting Go”  is life changing!   Practice so you can have better results and truly enjoy life!

We would love to hear from you, please leave a comment in the comment section below!

Cheri Hickman is the co-founder of Queen Bee Biz.  As a life coach and emotional releasing expert, she along with her business partner, Vicki Kallman, support women over 40 to Bee Happy before during and after menopause.  They take you from Grumpy to Happy in 60 seconds! Click here for  24/7 happiness.