Your Menopause Body Powered by Appreciation!

First off, what is appreciation? Synonyms for appreciation are thankfulness, recognition, gratefulness, high regard, enjoyment, love, honor or praise. Appreciation is one of the highest vibrations there is – right up there with LOVE! If you are not including appreciation of your menopausal body in your daily routine, then you are really missing a simple way to have a happy, healthy body! If you are – kudos!

Believe me ladies, we all need to have a great relationship with our bodies during this time of change. It is critical to pay attention to what you are saying to your body and what you believe about your bodies. Remember what you think about is what you bring about wanted or unwanted – the Law of Attraction.

This is how the law of attraction works, when you look in a mirror or try on bathing suits, do you see your bodies as an enemy or friend? How many positive thoughts about your body do you have in a day? How many negative thoughts do you have about your body in a day? Most of us are out of balance when it comes to communicating effectively with our bodies. Results our bodies seem to become our enemies during this delicate time in our lives. How well do you get along with your enemies?  Will you enemies work for you to be happy?  Remember junk in gives you junk out!

In the past month, my wise friend, Judi Moreo , sent out a newsletter article about thanking our bodies for all the wonderful, miraculous things it does for us every minute of the day! I started thinking about how I talk to my brilliant body. I really had not had a very kind discussion with it in a long time. Oh, the things I have screamed at it! You are not healthy enough! You are not thin enough! You are not strong or young enough! That is the PG version of the one-way conversations. Am I really not surprised that my body is not where I want it to be? Throwing negative insults at it has not given me the results I have not desired!

Solution: Starting about 5 weeks ago, I have made a conscience decision to power my body by the appreciation it deserves. Yep, I have started to appreciate and thank all the parts of my body. The results were amazing.

At one of our Queen Bee Saturday events, I lead the gals through “Thank You Body” meditation. At the end of the meditation the gals felt expanded, at peace, and their bodies felt amazing! Everyone was so surprised at the simplicity and effectiveness of the exercise!

Your menopause body powered by Appreciation might be what the doctor ordered for you to open up a beautiful line of communication with it. Our bodies have been trying to communicate with us, but with all our negative screaming, we have not allowed ourselves to listen to it. It knows what food and exercise is good for it. Appreciate it and LISTEN!

Our bodies know what it will take to be healthier and handle menopause. We are the ones making it a bit more difficult with our thoughts and beliefs. Add appreciation to your daily work out and feel how it super sizes the results.

About the same time I started appreciating my body, I started a Pilates Class with the reformer machines. I wanted my body to get stronger and feel healthier. The first day of Pilates was quite challenging for me is an understatement. I felt muscles where I did not know I had muscles! In the middle of a grueling abdominal set on the reformer, when I felt I could not do another rep – I acknowledge my abs by saying a quick “I appreciate you and thank you”. Something remarkable happened, my body allowed me to easily finish up the last three reps. I thought. “hmm…. that’s interesting”. I tried it again when I felt I could not go any further and again the results were amazing. When I was done and on my way home – I gave thanks and appreciation to my tired body. In return, I received a burst of energy to continue through my day.

I will continue powering my menopause body by appreciation, so I can reap the benefits of a happy, healthy body! I really pay attention to what I am communicating to my body- I want to be friends with it. As we all know, friends do not degrade each other. They build each other up! Let your body be your friend!

So lovely ladies over 45, if you seem to be in a battle with your before, during or after menopause body, call a truce! Open up the line of positive communication with it by appreciating your body and your health every day. Now notice how your body responds and how happier you are!

We have created a “Thank You “ Body Meditation you can listen to a couple times of the day. Get your appreciation on now!

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Vicki Kallman is the co-founder of Queen Bee Biz.  As a life coach and emotional releasing expert, she along with her business partner, Cheri Hickman, support women over 40 to Bee Happy before during and after menopause.  They take you from Grumpy to Happy in 60 seconds! Click here for  24/7 happiness. 

 

 

Hmmm.. That’s Interesting!

I have a habit of saying “Hmmm… that’s interesting“, whenever I see or hear something on which I have no judgement. I noticed my sister does the same thing. The interesting point of this is, I just read an article by Charlotte Davis Kasl, Ph. D. addressing this statement.

It clarifies why people say “Hmmm… that’s interesting“, as well as, encourages you to say it yourself. When you’re judgmental, you’re in a place of wanting to control a situation. This attitude creates stress on you and those around you. To live in a place of peace, you need to let go of that judgement. One way is to be aware of when you being judgmental, then say to yourself, “Hmmm… that’s interesting“. This defuses the judgement and allows you to be in a place of “not caring”. You can then be at peace.

I enjoyed discovering why I say the phrase quite often. There are times when someone is looking for feedback on something they did or said. For instance, something as simple as a gift they gave you. You open it and it is really nothing you want. As they are sitting there commenting on how cute it is, all I might do is smile and say “Hmmm… interesting“. It’s more about someone looking for a compliment and you don’t want to hurt their feelings.

People are always judging politicians, religion, etc. I don’t put judgement on them (most of the time), because it is what it is. Getting into verbal battles with people over politics or religion is detrimental to your health. Having constructive conversations is another thing. I’m talking about when people are adamant about their side of a situation. You don’t have to agree or disagree. Just respond with “Hmmm… that’s interesting“.

Vicki and I focus on supporting menopausal women. It is during this time in your life where your hormones are changing. You may become more judgmental that you ever have been. That’s why we are here to provide you with as many tools as possible. The more tools you pick up to STOP the Madness, the easier it will be for you to BEE Happy. We call the Madness, the “Menopause Mess”.

What pushes your buttons? Notice how you feel and where you feel it in your body. Wouldn’t it be great to be able to “let go” of feeling the anger, frustration, anxiety, or whatever emotion shows up for you? There is a simple way for you to be at peace and BEE Happy! Let go of judgement.

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Cheri Hickman is the co-founder of Queen Bee Biz.  As a life coach and emotional releasing expert, she along with her business partner, Vicki Kallman, support women over 40 to Bee Happy before during and after menopause.  They take you from Grumpy to Happy in 60 seconds! Click here for  24/7 happiness.

The Importance of Menopause Emotional Wellness

Is your Emotional Wellness important to you?

During the menopause time of our lives, I believe many of us have experienced a day where we woke up feeling unhappy and may be depressed? Our thoughts are those of worry, frustration, and discontent.  As our day unfolds, nothing is going our way.  For every step forward, we take 2 backwards. We might start to believe nothing good ever happens to us. We are just not feeling good enough to solve the problem which is causing us worry and frustration. In fact, by the time the afternoon comes around our energy has been depleted and it is nap time! Are we having fun, yet?

For many women who are in throws of the phases of menopause, ( before, during and post) this scenario can show up weekly, if not daily. Out of Balanced hormones can be the number one culprit. The number two culprit is there is change in the air!  This is an end to their child bearing years and our so-called youth. It is an emotional time of their lives. They start searching for something! They can no longer suppress issues about our relationships, marriage, health and self-worth at this time of our life.  Those some what out-of-control issues seem to fly up and bite them in the fanny! Are we having fun, yet? Our hormonal imbalances make us vulnerable to these emotion driven issues.

There is Good News! With this uncomfortable vulnerability, comes wisdom! We seem to “just know”, we no longer have to settle for non-fulfilling relationships, jobs, and we can start embracing our true selves. We can now throw away our super woman capes and embrace the freedom we deserve! I am not advocating divorce or being mean to love ones.

However, it is time to muzzle the Menopause Mess!

What I am advocating is taking time to love yourself by putting yourself first, practice receiving and start creating your happiness for the second stage of your life.  You must understand your emotions create your thoughts and beliefs about yourself and your life, which in turn, creates your happiness or your unhappiness. When you are able to do this, you can embrace this change with the tools to continue to be happier!

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if, you were really happy and felt fulfilled for the rest of your life!

Cheri and I have created a program called the Bee Happy Online Course for women over 45  which takes you through releasing those emotional issues/beliefs and making room in your life for happiness.  Our processes allows you to let go, forgive, be enough and do it all with gratitude.

You are the only one who can create your happiness. Cheri and I are here to show you the way. We have been there, done that, and bought the t-shirt! We have done the research and found what has supported our clients to create a happier life.

Choose to BEE HAPPY – check out our Bee Happy Online Course.

We would love to hear from you, please leave a comment in the comment section below!

CLICK HERE for your 5 Fear-Free Facts to Stop Being Frustrated with Your Midlife Body!


Vicki Kallman is the co-founder of Queen Bee Biz.  As a life coach and emotional releasing expert, she along with her business partner, Cheri Hickman, support women over 40 to Bee Happy before during and after menopause.  They take you from Grumpy to Happy in 60 seconds! Click here for  24/7 happiness. 

Avoid the Family Drama – Tip #2 for Happy Holidays

Happy Holiday Tip #2 to Avoid Family Drama.
Ask yourself would I rather be right or happy? When it comes to dealing with difficult family members. Choose Happy!
Forgive yourself and other family members.
Set an intention to have an amazing, loving time this next few months!
Be grateful and loving to yourself and others.

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Cheri and Vicki are your Queen Bees and co-founders of Queen Bee Biz. As Ambassadors for Happiness, they support amazing women over 40 to be emotional ready to have fun and bee happy before during and after the “Big Change”. Go from Grumpy to Happy in 60 seconds! Click here to show you how!

The Not So Fun Guilt Cycle

Let’s look at the emotion called guilt. It is an interesting emotion. This emotion really shows it’s nasty head during your menopause years. The result ~~ it can really derail our happiness and joy during the second adulthood!

Why Do I Feel Guilty?

  • Why do we feel guilty for the craziest reasons?

Like when a love one gets sick and passes on,  when we eat too much, when we sleep in or when we win a competition and your friend does not. First of all, humans are judging machines- we judge everything all day. Right? or Wrong? Right ?or Wrong? all day. When we judge them to be wrong, we fear we will do it again, so we decide to beat ourselves up and feel guilty.  Are we having fun, yet?

Please put the stick down! Stop using feeling guilty as a way to stop feeling a certain way or doing something you have judge as bad.  Has feeling guilty ever stop you from doing the act or thinking a thought?  Has it ever stopped you from feeling a certain way? I once heard it said,  “Feeling guilty gives you permission to do it again.” Have you felt guilty after eating a cookie when you were on a diet? Did feeling guilty stop you from eating another one right away?! It has never stopped me! HA!

Does feeling guilty have any value? Again, our mind wants you to think guilt helps you from repeating the behavior which you are feeling guilty about. This is our mind telling us a lie. We must become free from that prison of the mind and no longer listen to it’s lies. We must take action and free ourselves from believing these lies.

The first step to stopping the “Guilt Cycle” is to start becoming aware of your guilty feelings as they arrive. Once you become aware of the guilty feelings, notice what happens next. You feel guilty, then you fear what will happen. Now you start beating yourself up because you feel you are not good enough which cause you great pain. So now you are experiencing guilt, fear, and pain! Are you ready to stop this insanity!?

How much Joy can you be experiencing, if you are stuck in this “Guilt Cycle”? I have had several clients who have been stuck here. Where does it come from? Most of the time it comes from our religious and cultural beliefs.  These victim beliefs have used guilt to control you and others. It is time to free your mind from guilt, so you can experience your truth and joy!

The solution to the Guilty or Not Guilty Dilemma is to let go of the guilt, forgive it, and forgive yourself and the feelings. You are wise and wonderful- it is time to own your power before, during and after menopause.

“Guilt is a self-imposed prison. Only you have the keys to free yourself.”

I challenge you to stop judging yourself and your feelings, get rid of the guilty feelings by letting them go and forgiving them and visualize yourself having more joy and success in your life! Our Bee Happy Online Course will support you in releasing and forgiving guilt.

Vicki Kallman is the co-founder of Queen Bee Biz. As a life coach and emotional releasing expert, she along with her business partner, Cheri Hickman, support women over 40 to Bee Happy before during and after menopause. They take you from Grumpy to Happy in 60 seconds! Click here for  24/7 happiness.