CHG #1 Beliefs Cause A Happiness Gap

Your beliefs cause your unhappiness.

As you approach menopause, you start having thoughts of frustration, sometimes anger, and feeling unfulfilled. You feel like you are trapped!  This is normal, per se. Of course, what’s normal during menopause?! We’ve shared our  Happiness Gap Blogs and videos with you.  If you haven’t watched them yet, you can go to view them at Free Video Series called The Happiness Gap. Now we’re ready to take you to another level of awareness with our Happiness Gap Blogs & videos.

The free Happiness Gap videos explained why women’s happiness declines as they age and we shared some simple ways to reverse that madness. Retraining your brain is our main focus in gaining happiness back into women’s lives.

The couple of exercises we shared, get you on the path to retraining your brain. Now you get to discover more ways to Close that Happiness Gap! You deserve to have all the wealth, radiant health, and fabulous relationships you desire. You deserve to be FREE!

What beliefs did you create that are not working for you?

I know one of mine was what I heard from my Dad: “money doesn’t grow on trees”. Well maybe it doesn’t, but that doesn’t mean that I can’t have fun during my life either. (Play was always the last item on my plate.) Don’t get me wrong, my Dad loved to have fun. He just always lived in the thought of lack. At least that’s my perception. After I realized there’s ALWAYS enough, I found ways to accumulate whatever I desire.

Another phrase I grew up with “Kids are to be seen and not heard”. Wow, how does that hit the belief system? That created a pattern in me where I’ve been a very quiet person most of my life. Very unopinionated too. Sometimes that works for me, but most of the time it doesn’t. I always had a hard time expressing myself to my spouse and others I was close to. That created tension (mostly in me), a big lack of communication, and a divorce with the first marriage.

If you have beliefs and patterns that aren’t working for you; if you are feeling trapped with life, we can support you in turning those around for you. Retraining your brain will allow you to create the results in your life that will eliminate the patterns that are not working for you. Your beliefs created those patterns, so we guide you through processes to change the beliefs.

If you keep attracting the same crappy relationships, you have a belief that you don’t deserve a happy, healthy relationship.

If you are always lacking with your finances, whether you make a lot of money or not, you have a belief that there is never enough. Are you tired of living this way? You don’t have to live this way.

We’re sharing our first session of our Closing The Happiness Gap Sweet Success Package with you, so you can discover how to change your beliefs, so you can change your patterns, so you can STOP feeling frustrated, angry, and unfulfilled! Stop feeling trapped and become FREE! — Click here for your free session!

We would love to hear from you, please leave a comment in the comment section below!

Cheri Hickman is the co-founder of Queen Bee Biz. As a life coach and emotional releasing expert, she along with her business partner, Vicki Kallman, support women over 40 to Bee Happy before during and after menopause. They take you from Grumpy to Happy in 60 seconds! Click here for 24/7 happiness.


 

Women Feeling Frustrated & Unfulfilled!

Are you ready to become AWARE there really is a reason why you’re feeling frustrated, unfulfilled, and not as happy you’d like to?

“Though women now have the liberty to choose whichever life they’d like, many are struggling in their pursuit of a happy life.”
Thomas Jefferson

We were astonished to discover in a U.S. General Social Survey, taken over a 40 year period starting in 1972, that women’s happiness declines as they age. After the age of 47, men are happier than women. Hey, that’s not fair, we took on more responsibilities and they’re happier!

In another study on women’s happiness, these questions were asked.
Have you ever ask yourself these questions?

  • How satisfied are you with your marriage?
  • How satisfied are you with the things you own?
  • How satisfied are you with your finances?

Research confirms, once again, women begin their lives more satisfied than men, and wind up less satisfied after the age of 47. We knew there had to be something going on, because we felt the frustrations, too.

We share our mid-forties experiences and frustrations in this video.

Both of us had slightly different life paths, however, we both started having thoughts during our 40’s that allowed us to go down the same path for the answers. We didn’t want to be that “grumpy old woman”, we just wanted to Bee Happy, but not sure what to do about it. Now we know! We’ll share those secrets with you in the other two videos. You can view all 3 Free  Happiness Gap Videos here.

Through research, we’ve found what’s hijacking women’s happiness after the age of 47. The best part is: You’re not alone! There’s hope! It is common for you to feel frustrated and unfulfilled. I believe knowing that you are not alone is important. You can now feel comfortable discussing this with other women.

We’re here to educate you in WHY you are feeling frustrated and unfulfilled.

Enjoy a FREE Session of our Closing The Happiness Gap Sweet Success Package and discover what to start doing about changing those feelings. Click here for your free session!

We would love to hear from you, please leave a comment in the comment section below!

CLICK HERE for your 5 Fear-Free Facts to Stop Being Frustrated with Your Midlife Body!

Cheri and Vicki are your Queen Bees and co-founders of Queen Bee Biz.  As Ambassadors for Happiness, they support amazing women over 40 to be emotional ready to have fun and Bee Happy before, during, and after the “Big Change”. 4 Weeks to Muzzle the Menopause Mess!  Click here to show you how

What’s Hijacking Your Happiness?

Dueling Brains Hijack Your Happiness!

Dueling brain, what’s that?! The Amygdala (unconscious reactions – fight or flight and looking for problems) and the Pre-frontal Cortex (reasoning – problem solver) portions of the brain are in a battle. This battle (looking for problems, looking for solutions, looking for what’s wrong) is messing with your happiness and causing you great stress. In the last 40 years, even though you have had more opportunities (due to the Equal Rights Movement), you are unable to emotionally handle all of them and still be in a balanced state.  Simply, your plate is full

Menopause is a period of time (Like a good 10 years worth of time!) when your thoughts and moods seem to take control of you. The simplest events push your buttons! Then you feel embarrassed or upset because you don’t now why you got upset in the first place. This is the battle of the dueling brains.

When you are in the battle, you are the Bitch.

The happy Queen shows up when the war is over. Research tells us about how you train your brain to create happiness or not. So how do you control your retrain your brain?  We have several ways we’ll share with you on accomplishing this feat. Our 3 free videos support you in understanding what is happening to cause the struggles you experience. In video 3 we share a very simple exercise to get you started on a path to retrain your brain. Until then, see below for a few points to put into practice.

This constant battle you are in, before, during, and after menopause, creates the declining happiness in women. We’re here to tell you there is hope! You can retrain your brain to create happiness in your life. Your thoughts are key.

Bonus – From our Closing the Happiness Gap Sweet Success Package
Suggestions to take into consideration:

  • Be aware of what you are thinking. Are you having a negative thought or a positive thought?
  • If you are having a negative thought (that’s ok, we all do), switch it to a positive thought. I put a big red X across the thought and change the thought to what I want instead of what I don’t want. This doesn’t mean you think to yourself “I want this traffic to stop being so congested”. That’s still a negative thought. You are focusing on what you don’t want.  It means “I love it when the traffic is running smoothly.” or “I’m glad I can enjoy my drive.”
  • There is one more key to this. You get to FEEL as though you already have what you want. The feeling with the thought is what initiates the positive change.

We’re determined to help women STOP the MADNESS

and increase their happiness by sharing what we’ve discovered works. Practicing our simple, unique techniques has given us the opportunity to experience what you can also have in your life! Join us on this journey to create balance, peace, and joy! Happiness is all we want for everyone. You can jump start this journey by enjoying our FREE session of the Closing the Happiness Gap Sweet Success Package! Click here for your free session!

References:
The Happiness Advantage
Work of Professors Richard Easterlin and Anke Plagnol
Huntington Post article by Marcus Buckingham

We would love to hear from you. Please leave a comment below.

Cheri and Vicki are your Queen Bees and co-founders of Queen Bee Biz.  As Ambassadors for Happiness, they support amazing women over 40 to be emotional ready to have fun and Bee Happy before, during, and after the “Big Change”. 4 Weeks to Muzzle the Menopause Mess!  Click here to show you how



Is Dis-ease Genetics or Not?

I just read this information by Christiane Northrup, M.D, regarding our thoughts and dis-ease.

Many of you know that your thoughts can affect your health. And, most of you have heard stories of people recovering from grave illnesses when modern medicine failed. Doctors often use terms such as “spontaneous remission,” “faith healing” and “miracles.”

I have always said emotions that are freely experienced and expressed without judgment or attachment tend to support health. The now-popular field of epigenetics (the science of how our environment affects our genes) is proving that we do, in fact, have the ultimate control over how our genes will express in our lifetime. In other words: your DNA is responsive to changes in your environment. And your thoughts are your environment!

Deep-rooted beliefs of health and vitality can actually trigger your genes to express in a healthy way. So, while you may have a gene mutation for a certain disease, your epigenetic markers for that mutation can be reversed. It’s like a pencil mark that you can erase.

My take on this information:

I’ve known for a long time how true her statements are. I’ve also gone around in circles with people regarding the heart attack I had in 2012. The doctors say it’s genetics; others say it’s genetics. Yes, my immediate family has huge heart illnesses. HOWEVER, that doesn’t mean it was from genetics. I believe it is more about the environment I grew up in with all the meat and potato meals; all the stress I held inside over the many years of an abusive relationship, attempting to handle everything myself, and not knowing any different. As well as, focusing on what I DIDN’T want. The Universe gives you what you focus on, whether you want it or not.

When I had the heart issue, I was very surprised because I had been taking care of myself pretty well for the prior decade. One nurse told me it was just years of buildup. Well, imagine if I hadn’t been taking care of myself. I would probably have had the issue way before then and may have taken more than one and a half weeks to recover. Most people didn’t even know I had the heart issue.

In my mind, it was an event. An event that let me know I needed to still do something different in the way I was living my life. I’ve been practicing being aware of my thoughts and word usage for years. I know how to manifest what I desire in my life. I also know I still needed to allow myself to accept and ask for more help instead of attempting to do it all myself.

Your thoughts are your environment too. Just like Christiane Northrup states above and how science is now proving how important your thoughts are to the results you create in your life. I’ve been sharing the teaching this concept to others for quite some time now. Just today, a young lady was talking about how “I’m not going to die from cancer”….. What is she focusing on? What is she telling the Universe? She is focusing on the dying from cancer! I suggested she switch the words and thoughts around to what she wants. To live a happy, healthy life!

So often we think we are focusing on what we want, when we are really focusing on what we don’t want. It only takes turning those thoughts around to tell the Universe what you really want vs. what you don’t want.

I’m sure you’ve known someone who has overcome a dis-ease, when the doctors said there was nothing they could do. Their thoughts and attitude are what supported them in becoming healthy. Along with their thoughts, what they eat, and what kinds of activity they do on a daily basis. Queen Bee Biz helps you clarify what you do want, then we share resources for you to be able to change your thoughts about dis-ease. You can check us out at www.queenbeebiz.com

 We would love to hear from you, please leave a comment in the comment section below!

Cheri Hickman is the co-founder of Queen Bee Biz.  As a life coach and emotional releasing expert, she along with her business partner, Vicki Kallman, support women over 40 to Bee Happy before during and after menopause.  They take you from Grumpy to Happy in 60 seconds! Click here for  24/7 happiness.

 

“I Don’t Know” Solution

What do I want?
And why?

How you answer these two Life Choice questions will be the difference between a happy in the second half of your life or not. It will be the difference between being having amazing relationships or not.  It will be the difference of being in shape and healthy or not. Basically, your answers to these questions will make a positive or negative outcome in everything you wish to achieve in your menopausal years.

Here the two most powerful Life Choice questions you can ask yourself to create a happy, solid foundation in your life.

What do I want?
And why?

Yep, these two simple questions can sometimes be the hardest questions to answer. When I coach my clients, these are the first two questions I ask them. Do you know what the number one answer I hear is?  “I don’t know.”  They want to be coached to succeed in love, health, or life menopause but they do not know what they want.  In contrast, the clients who share with me exactly what they want and why, by the end of their coaching experience, they have achieved it or close to achieving it. The results are really as different as day and night.  Understanding the importance of having the answers to these two questions, is the first step to creating a strong foundation for happiness and an amazing second adulthood.

Why is it so hard to answer those two questions? I have a theory. First, many of us have had our parents, teachers, friends and/or society tell us “not to want” early on in our lives. Remember when you wanted that favorite expensive toy for your birthday or Christmas, you told your parents or siblings what you wanted and they answered, “That is too expensive – what else do you want that is not so pricey?” How did you feel? Maybe you felt guilty for wanting the expensive toy and felt like you did something wrong. Result, you ended up accepting what you did not want. I like to call it “settling”.  After many experiences similar to this, you just stop wanting. Why? Because you won’t get it. In conclusion, we stop trusting our inner voices who are telling us what we want and desire.  We just turn down the volume and stop listening. So sad.

Now if you are unable to know what you want, then you will not know why you want it.  Let’s take for example. You are over 40 and single and you are telling your friends you want a serious loving relationship. A friend then asks you, What do you want in this relationship? Your mind goes blank. Then your friend asks you. Why do you want this relationship? Again, nothing.  What do you think your chances are you will be in a serious loving relationship anytime soon? Have you ever had something like this happen to you? You can apply this scenario to any dream or desire you have had. Sadly, many of us are out of practice in knowing what we want and why. We just do not know where to start.

Let’s get back to the two questions. What do you want and why? Remember answering these questions are the first steps anyone should take when the way to being happy. They are the bricks and mortar for a strong foundation which to build your successes in anything we do.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if every women would start to desire and dream again!?!

I believe everyone understands, at some level, our dreams and desires do not come from “thinking”. Dreams and desires come from our hearts. They are ignited from within.  You can feel yourself expand, when you have one of these desires ignite.  Anything is possible!  You feel connected to the truth of who you are.  Here is where your why comes in. It has to be strong enough to continue to fuel your desire when your limiting beliefs or anyone wants to stop you from continuing on. By the way, one of your strongest whys can be – Because I know that I know that I know this why I want to do this! When I have this kind of “intuitive why“, watch out world here I come. This why has always powered me to happiness. If you don’t have a powerful why, your foundation for happiness will easily crumble.

Wise Wonderful Women~~Let’s build a strong foundation for your future successes and happiness. Here are a few steps you can take everyday to strengthen your “desire and why” muscles again, so you can begin to trust and listen to your heart and follow your truth to love. It may feel a little strange in the beginning because those wants and why muscles might have atrophied a bit.

As Dr. Christiane Northrup says, ” There is wisdom in menopause.” It is time to embrace it!

After 45 Life Choice Exercise:
Take at least 10-15 minutes in the morning and ask yourself, What do I want for the second half of my life? Take the time to visualize it.
Then ask yourself, WHY? Then get quiet and listen to your answer. Do it over and over again until you feel yourself expand to feel anything is possible.
End your “desire and why” session with gratitude for allowing your desire to be fueled by your empowering why to success and happiness!

When you go through this process you might discover, you really do not want what you thought you wanted or your why did not give you the power you needed to stay motivated. It is OK. It might not be the right time for you to take on this task or you might have uncovered a want or dream which is in more alignment with you at this time. Be patient.

Please keep asking these two Life Choice questions.  Build your happiness foundation with what you want, launch your dreams and desires by having a strong why and land amongst the stars of success! Life doesn’t end after menopause- it is just the beginning! Cheri and Vicki are here with Menopause Happiness Wisdom to support you in this journey!

We would love to hear from you, please leave a comment in the comment section below!


Vicki Kallman is the co-founder of Queen Bee Biz.  As a life coach and emotional releasing expert, she along with her business partner, Cheri Hickman, support women over 40 to Bee Happy before during and after menopause.  We take you from Grumpy to Happy in 60 seconds! Click here for  24/7 happiness.