Are you ready to start your journey to joy? I was not ready to begin my journey until I was 46 years old, my Peri-menopause time. It was the perfect timing for me. My youngest was 17 years old. My husband had retired from the Air Force. He had been working for Federal Express as a pilot for about 2 years. I felt like I was a little bit lost. I had been a military wife and a mother of three kids- my identity was my family.
At that time, I had I tried a few MLM to start a business on my own but that was not it. I wanted something but did not know what. Soon my son would be out of the house and off to college. What would life be like for me? My loving husband was back flying and living his dream but what was my dream? I spent nearly 25 years supporting my husband’s dream and my children’s dreams. Was it time for my dreams- did I have a dream which did not involved with being a Wife or Mother. I felt an edginess in my life, I knew I needed a change.
With my MLM businesses, I discovered, in order, to grow a successful business one needed to dream about being successful and why I wanted the success. I learned “what you think about is what you bring about”, the Universal Law of Attraction. The one good thing that came from these businesses was the personal growth training I was introduced to while learning the business. I discovered I did not care to do the business but I was excited about my own personal growth. I learned successful people set goals and their beliefs allowed success or doomed them to failure. I, also, experienced, life-changing tools to help me break out of the old non-productive beliefs to create new empowering ones.
That was just the beginning. Once I got on my path to personal growth, I read books and took a few courses, like Queen Bee Biz courses. After attending a life-changing weekend personal growth course, I was astounded to discovered that I was was just at the very beginning of my journey to my joy. I had a long way to go and I did not want to spend a minute longer feeling limited, contracted and lost. I was ready to “To Bee all I can Bee”!
Meanwhile, my husband who was living his dream saw changes in me, he was starting to get worried about me. I was taking time for myself and spending money on myself. Something I had never really done before. I had a “give-it-your-all and ask for nothing” belief from my mother about you give everything to everyone else- because that’s what mothers do. Now here I was making decisions to spend a few thousand dollars on the next 7 day workshop in California. Yep- I made the decision without him. It was very not like me at the time. I was changing right before his eyes! Happiness and fulfillment here I come!
The day after I had paid for this expensive course, my husband and I took a stroll around the block. We got into a serious discussion about me signing up for the course without speaking to him first. My husband had always been a generous but logical man. He was worried I was not making the right decision and that I did not discuss it with him first. In our 25 year marriage, he was always the logical one and I felt he knew best with his logic. Here I was struggling to find my voice and explained my need to grow to become wise and wonderful woman. I wanted my life after forty and raising my kids to be a fabulous one! I was worth it!
Vicki continues her Journey to Joy!
We sat done on the curb under a shade tree and I started to explain what was happening to me. I told him I want to be happy and love myself. I wanted to have fun in my life. It was not that I was unhappy – I just knew it could be better. I did not know how. I had two over-forty role models in my life, my mother and his mother. With tears in my eyes, I continued, “My mother is unhappy and complains about everyone and everything when we are around. She has stopped dreaming and doesn’t seem too happy to me.” Then I shared, your mother as much as I love her, fights depression. Again, not the best role models for happiness after 40. I took his hand and looked into his eyes and asked him this. “Which one do you want to grow old with the grumpy one or depressed one?” He was quiet. I continued,” I am working on myself, so I become neither! I don’t want my next 40 years feeling crappy.” I just knew if I keep taking these course, like our “Bee Happy Online Course” , reading the books, and using the tools I was given I could be happy and fulfilled. We could have fun and enjoy life together to the end. Once he understood where I was coming from, I received his complete support.
If you are on your journey or ready to start your journey, Cheri and I are here to support you in your journey before, during and after menopause. We are here to remind you that your life isn’t over when the kids move out or you retire from a career, you are just entering your second adulthood ( menopause years and more). There is fun and fulfillment after forty, fifty, sixty and beyond!
Learn more about your happiness during menopause by viewing our FREE video series called The Happiness Gap!
Vicki Kallman is the co-founder of Queen Bee Biz. As a life coach and emotional releasing expert, she along with her business partner, Cheri Hickman, support women over 40 to Bee Happy before during and after menopause. They take you from Grumpy to Happy in 60 seconds! Click here for 24/7 happiness.