Secret #3 of our 7 Secrets to Bee Happy is all about loving yourself. Loving everything about yourself. And being OK with loving yourself. Of all the secrets, this one seems to be the toughest for most women over 45. There are a variety of reasons many women feel this way. We can say society norms have made us critical about how we look always striving to be more or at least feel more. We beat ourselves up, if we are not that picture perfect person doing everything right. We equate being loveable with being perfect and right. As we all know, it is impossible to be right and perfect in all areas of our lives.
Here comes the not so rational thought process that doesn’t allow us to love ourselves. I gained 5 pounds. I am not perfect. I am bad for eating too much. Then I begin the cycle of hating myself, what I did and the results. That is just one example of this thought process. I bet you every day women compare themselves dozens of times to impossible ideas of how they should be! Then don’t feel good enough to love themselves because they did something wrong. Lordy, this thought process robs you of you happiness!
Cheri and I have seen this over and over again with our clients. They feel they have done so much “wrong” in their lives, they do not deserve to love themselves. They cannot look in a mirror and say I love you! Really, they cannot say the words. Everyone needs to love themselves -it is the most natural thing to do. I feel it is as important to a happy life as breathing, eating the right food and loving your family. If you are hating yourself, there is no room for love and joy. Loving yourself will get you there faster!
Many women have to retrain their brains to be able to look in the mirror and say “I love you” to the face that is looking back at them! Cheri and I have created a free video series called the Happiness Gap. Click here and sign up for it. You will learn after the age of 45, it can be harder to love yourself and bee happy. Let’s stop the madness NOW!
Once you become aware of what is going on, you can retrain your brain to allow you to courageously look into the mirror and see the wise, wonderful woman you are then say, “I Love You!”. Let your Queen Bees support you in journey joy in the second stage of your adulthood! Check out our FREE video series.
Let your happiness continue with our other amazing Menopause Secrets to Bee Happy Posts!
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Menopause Secret #7
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Vicki Kallman is the co-founder of Queen Bee Biz. As a life coach and emotional releasing expert, she along with her business partner, Cheri Hickman, support women over 45 to Bee Happy before during and after menopause. They take you from Grumpy to Happy in 60 seconds! Click here for 24/7 happiness.