Menopause Secret #3 to Bee Happy

Ladies, it is possible to Bee Happy before, during and after menopause, if you follow these 7 Secrets.

Secret #3 of our 7 Secrets to Bee Happy is all about loving yourself. Loving everything about yourself. And being OK with loving yourself.  Of all the secrets, this one seems to be the toughest for most women over 45. There are a variety of reasons many women feel this way.  We can say society norms have made us critical about how we look always striving to be more or at least feel more.  We beat ourselves up, if we are not that picture perfect person doing everything right. We equate being loveable with being perfect and right.  As we all know, it is impossible to be right and perfect in all areas of our lives.

Here comes the not so rational thought process that doesn’t allow us to love ourselves. I gained 5 pounds. I am not perfect. I am bad for eating too much. Then I begin the cycle of hating myself, what I did and the results. That is just one example of this thought process. I bet you every day women compare themselves dozens of times to impossible ideas of how they should be! Then don’t feel good enough to love themselves because they did something wrong. Lordy, this thought process robs you of you happiness!

Cheri and I have seen this over and over again with our clients. They feel they have done so much “wrong” in their lives,  they do not deserve to love themselves. They cannot look in a mirror and say I love you! Really, they cannot say the words. Everyone needs to love themselves -it is the most natural thing to do. I feel it is as important to a happy life as breathing, eating the right food and loving your family. If you are hating yourself, there is no room for love and joy. Loving yourself will get you there faster!

Many women have to retrain their brains to be able to look in the mirror and say “I love you” to the face that is looking back at them! Cheri and I have created a free video series called the Happiness Gap. Click here and sign up for it. You will learn after the age of 45, it can be harder to love yourself and bee happy. Let’s stop the madness NOW!

Once you become aware of what is going on, you can retrain your brain to allow you to courageously look into the mirror and see the wise, wonderful woman you are then say, “I Love You!”. Let your Queen Bees support you in journey joy in the second stage of your adulthood! Check out our FREE video series.

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Vicki Kallman is the co-founder of Queen Bee Biz.  As a life coach and emotional releasing expert, she along with her business partner, Cheri Hickman, support women over 45 to Bee Happy before during and after menopause.  They take you from Grumpy to Happy in 60 seconds! Click here for  24/7 happiness. 

Menopause Secret #2 to Bee Happy

Ladies, it is possible to Bee Happy before, during and after menopause, if you follow these 7 Secrets. How often do you spend time with yourself? I don’t mean by yourself, I mean with yourself. So many of us spend all our time being busy! We are working, cleaning, repairing, and sometimes we even sleep never putting ourselves first.  This is why we created Secret #2, Decide and Put Yourself First!

Are you like I was? I spent all my time taking care of the house, the kids, my work, and going to school. I would get an average of 5 hours of sleep a night. Good thing I was young then. I have a hard time with less than 7 hours of sleep now.

The first time a personal coach asked me what I wanted for ME, it took me three weeks to even figure out somewhat of an answer. Everything I was coming up with was for the family. That was when I started thinking about me. That was when I took a really good look at what MY life was all about. Yes, it is still about family and friends, however it is also about ME.

Secret #2 – Put yourself first. You need to care for you before you can truly care for others. Besides, it feels so gooood!

These realizations seem to show about the time you are in your early 40’s. It’s called pre-menopause. Being aware that it is normal to start looking at YOU during this time in your life is quite normal. You are not alone! Vicki and I have created a free Video Series called the Happiness Gap  where we share why you start to think about your life and what you are doing with it at this stage of the game.

Now I will spend the money to get a massage, take quality supplements, and have fun. I take time to sit in the Jacuzzi or soak in the tub and meditate. I take time to be thankful for all the wonderful people in my life and the material wealth. I take time to educate myself so I can keep enjoying life more and more.

So HOW do you find time to accomplish the things that you enjoy?! Between family, work, and whatever else, HOW do you find your “me”  time? You DECIDE to take your “me” time. No matter how busy your schedule is, you set YOU as a priority and work around it. You let the family know that at a specific time during the day, you are going to be unavailable. You are going to be spending time with YOU.

Learn to TREAT yourself to the things that you enjoy and that will enrich your body and your life. You’ll find more answers in our free video series, The Happiness Gap. ENJOY!

Let your happiness continue with our other amazing Menopause Secrets to Bee Happy Posts!
Menopause Secret #1
Menopause Secret #3
Menopause Secret #4
Menopause Secret #5
Menopause Secret #6
Menopause Secret #7

We would love to hear from you, please leave a comment in the comment section below!

Cheri and Vicki are your Queen Bees and co-founders of Queen Bee Biz. As Ambassadors for Happiness, they support amazing women over 40 to be emotional ready to have fun and Bee Happy before, during, and after the “Big Change”. 4 Weeks to Muzzle the Menopause Mess! Click here to show you how!

Menopause Secret #1 to Bee Happy

It’s possible to Bee Happy before, during, and after menopause, if you follow these 7 Secrets.  Cheri and I, your Queen Bees, have been letting go of emotions which do not serve us and forgiving ourselves for having those emotions and the emotions for over 15 years with tremendous joyful results.  This is why we have this as our first secret of our 7 Secrets to Bee Happy.

Many women over 45 have a lot of “I Can’t”  beliefs, thoughts and emotions which are not allowing them to experience true happiness during their second adulthood. We have a free Video Series called the Happiness Gap which explains why this happens to many of us. We turn 45 or so, then “BAM” it happens- CHANGE! All types of change- physical,  personal, business, and relationships. With this change comes uncertainty. We start asking ourselves, What is next? We want to feel fulfilled and happy for the next 40 to 50 years of our lives. We want to believe the best is yet to come. How do we do it?

Secret 1-You learn to let go, forgive and make your joy a priority.
What you think about you bring about.

We’ve been there and done that when it comes to setting your life up to bee happy, feel fulfilled and at peace. Let us help you to let go and forgive to bee happy. Check out our Free Video Series called “The Happiness Gap” to support you in understanding why this time of your life is not the happiest and how you can turn all of that around.

Let your happiness continue with our other amazing Menopause Secrets to Bee Happy Posts!
Menopause Secret #2

Menopause Secret #3
Menopause Secret #4
Menopause Secret #5
Menopause Secret #6
Menopause Secret #7

Cheri and Vicki are your Queen Bees and co-founders of Queen Bee Biz. As Ambassadors for Happiness, they support amazing women over 40 to be emotional ready to have fun and bee happy before during and after the “Big Change”. Go from Grumpy to Happy in 60 seconds! Click here to show you how!

We would love to hear from you, please leave a comment in the comment section below!

Hmmm.. That’s Interesting!

I have a habit of saying “Hmmm… that’s interesting“, whenever I see or hear something on which I have no judgement. I noticed my sister does the same thing. The interesting point of this is, I just read an article by Charlotte Davis Kasl, Ph. D. addressing this statement.

It clarifies why people say “Hmmm… that’s interesting“, as well as, encourages you to say it yourself. When you’re judgmental, you’re in a place of wanting to control a situation. This attitude creates stress on you and those around you. To live in a place of peace, you need to let go of that judgement. One way is to be aware of when you being judgmental, then say to yourself, “Hmmm… that’s interesting“. This defuses the judgement and allows you to be in a place of “not caring”. You can then be at peace.

I enjoyed discovering why I say the phrase quite often. There are times when someone is looking for feedback on something they did or said. For instance, something as simple as a gift they gave you. You open it and it is really nothing you want. As they are sitting there commenting on how cute it is, all I might do is smile and say “Hmmm… interesting“. It’s more about someone looking for a compliment and you don’t want to hurt their feelings.

People are always judging politicians, religion, etc. I don’t put judgement on them (most of the time), because it is what it is. Getting into verbal battles with people over politics or religion is detrimental to your health. Having constructive conversations is another thing. I’m talking about when people are adamant about their side of a situation. You don’t have to agree or disagree. Just respond with “Hmmm… that’s interesting“.

Vicki and I focus on supporting menopausal women. It is during this time in your life where your hormones are changing. You may become more judgmental that you ever have been. That’s why we are here to provide you with as many tools as possible. The more tools you pick up to STOP the Madness, the easier it will be for you to BEE Happy. We call the Madness, the “Menopause Mess”.

What pushes your buttons? Notice how you feel and where you feel it in your body. Wouldn’t it be great to be able to “let go” of feeling the anger, frustration, anxiety, or whatever emotion shows up for you? There is a simple way for you to be at peace and BEE Happy! Let go of judgement.

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We would love to hear from you, please leave a comment in the comment section below!

Cheri Hickman is the co-founder of Queen Bee Biz.  As a life coach and emotional releasing expert, she along with her business partner, Vicki Kallman, support women over 40 to Bee Happy before during and after menopause.  They take you from Grumpy to Happy in 60 seconds! Click here for  24/7 happiness.

What? – Put Yourself First!?

I get up, put the coffee on, get dressed and ready for work. Cook breakfast (maybe). Take food out of the freezer for tonight. Wake up my husband. Why is it I’m waking him up? He’s a grown man!

Off to work. I like my work. it is a way to get out of the house and use my brain. Not sure I like the hours and lack of flexibility, though.

I need to remember to pick up the dry cleaning before I go to my charity board meeting. So much for cooking dinner tonight. I’ll pick up some fast food on the way home from my meeting.

Dinner at 7:30 pm. I really hate eating so late. At this rate, I’ll never get rid of the extra 15 pounds I’ve put on over the years. No matter what I do, it seems to stick to me. It is depressing to see how my body is changing with age. Yuck! I have good intentions of exercising on a regular basis. I’m just too tired by the time I get out of work, serve on my charities, take care of the house, and do the laundry. I don’t even have the energy or desire to play around with my husband any more.

DOES THIS SOUND LIKE YOU? If so, this article is for you.

The kids are grown and out of the house. You’d think there would be more time for yourself now. However, you are still in the mode of doing for others. It is an ingrained belief that as a woman, it is up to you to be the nurturer. That is the belief instilled in our generation, the Baby Boomers.

Pre, during, and post menopause has you looking at your life, wondering what you are to do now. You’ve spent your whole life taking care of the family and never having enough time for yourself. Now you take up your time with charities and other organizations. You enjoy doing this, however, you still keep putting yourself last.

Isn’t it time for you to Take The Time to do for you? Isn’t it time to put yourself first? All you have to do is get into a habit of taking care of YOU. You get to switch your belief and realize it is OK for you to do what you enjoy. It’s OK take a few minutes each and every day to do something special for YOU. It doesn’t have to be much. Maybe it’s 5 minutes, twice a day, meditating so you can feel more relaxed and calm. Meditation supports your mind and body to Bee Healthy and Happy. You will enhance your memory, be more focused, and calm.

Schedule 30 minutes or more to read, journal, or exercise. During menopause your body changes, so the more you do to feed your body with healthy foods and exercise, the better you’ll feel. Schedule it so you create a habit.

I found I had to commit to a schedule to make a habit, whether it was going to the gym before or after work, committing to stay off sugar, or meditating and journaling. Once I got into the habit, it became easier for me to keep up the “Me Time”.

Get a buddy to support you in creating your “Me Time” and you can support them in their “Me Time”. Have fun with it. Know you deserve to have fun and do for yourself. You’ve spent your whole life doing for others and now it is time for you to do for you. It is OK for you to put yourself first.

I know when I was in my 40’s, someone asked me “What do you want for you?” It took me 3 weeks to even come up with something. My life was work, kids, husband, house. I never took the time to think about me and what I wanted. I didn’t even know how to put myself first.

It was a struggle to realize it was OK for me put myself first. I had to get rid of the belief that I was being selfish if I wanted to do something for me, instead of cleaning the house or fixing dinner. It took a while to figure out how I could have a happy home and a happy me. First I had to be honest with myself and recognize how I felt, then I had to learn how to communicate those feelings with others in the household.

I had to learn to express my desires and wants so I could feel good about myself. Once I was able to communicate what I wanted, I was able to work with the family and get their support in taking on more of what I thought was up to me to get done. All I had to do was ask and let them know how I felt. I became Vulnerable. Wow, was that a challenge.

It is a matter of allowing others to take care of themselves and it doesn’t have to look the way you think it does. Let go of needing to control how something needs to be done and look, so you can enjoy YOU. After you get to be a certain age, you will realize the little things aren’t as important as they used to be. It’s ok for dust to be on the furniture and the floors don’t need to be cleaned EVERY day. So what if the bed HE made isn’t the way you would make it.

Relax, have fun. It is time for you to put yourself first so you can enjoy yourself!

We would love to hear from you, please leave a comment in the comment section below!

Cheri Hickman is the co-founder of Queen Bee Biz.  As a life coach and emotional releasing expert, she along with her business partner, Vicki Kallman, support women over 40 to Bee Happy before during and after menopause.  They take you from Grumpy to Happy in 60 seconds! Click here for  24/7 happiness.

As Ambassadors for Happiness, we support amazing women over 40 to be emotional ready to have fun and Bee Happy before, during, and after the “Big Change”. 4 Weeks to Muzzle the Menopause Mess!  Click here to show you how