When it comes to making positive changes in your life, do you get stuck? It seems you know you must, should, or have to do something different, however, it just becomes too difficult to move forward. It is like you are walking slowly up hill in deep sand! The next thing you know, you feel exhausted and get stuck. Do you feel this happens more times than not when you set a goal? Let’s find out the root of this frustrating behavior.
In all my years of coaching people through their personal growth process, the greatest stumbling block to achieving rapid change and growth is this….we won’t give up our old patterns and beliefs. Even people who really want to change often have trouble because they will not give up their old familiar ways of being and doing!
I call this resistance. Resistance is insidious. It is the “show stopper”. It stops you from having, doing, and being what you want in life. Menopause is a time in your life when you are ready to make huge changes and then those changes bring up fears that cause you to resist. Using our tools and techniques allow you to get unstuck, let go of those resistance beliefs and move forward to more Happiness in your life. Click here to find out more about how to let go of resistance.
It is always beneficial to be reminded when you are in resistance. Knowing this will allow you to become aware that your non-productive, old beliefs are still hanging around and stopping you from easily moving forward in your life.
Sadly, resistance is a natural response to trying to make a positive change. However, you probably would not have set a goal for yourself, unless there was something you wanted to change or improve in your life. Unfortunately, resistance gets in the way. Resistance is a little like the glue which holds all our limitations or suffering in place. As you are working on completing a new goal, you may hit layers of resistance. It may even take the form of “forgetting” you even had the goal or losing interest in it altogether. This is where learning to “let go of your old beliefs and patterns” will really pay off.
Would you rather have your goals and your freedom, or would you rather have the false security of clinging to your old painful emotions, beliefs, or patterns? It is really your choice! Remember, resistance is just a feeling. What you resist persists! And it keeps you stuck…
Resistance is operating 24/7 because we live in a Sea of Should’s, Have To’s, Must Do’s and imperatives! Imperatives or commands- stir up resistance. It is like the world is pushing on you and you are pushing back. It becomes quite exhausting and stressful. Maybe, it is time to “let go” and stop pushing back!
Letting go of your past beliefs and resistance is not always easy. I love this story.
A man fell over a cliff and he is hanging onto a branch sticking out from the cliff for dear life. He screams out,”Is there is a God, help me?” He hears aloud reply, “YES!” He cries out, again, “What should I do?” God answers, “Let Go!” Then the man replies again, “Is there anyone else up there I can ask for help?” HA!
Remember resistance is wanting to make changes using your old beliefs which keep you stuck with shattered dreams. Notice using this method has not given you the results you would like. Einstein shared, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.” Could it be time do something different? Letting go of the resistance, old patterns and beliefs and embracing the I Can beliefs, will allow you to have more energy to achieve your dreams.
“Sometimes we must become someone we have never become before, to achieve something we have never achieved before.”
You can only do this by letting go of your old beliefs and I can’t emotions, so your new beliefs and I can emotions can take over. In the process, you can have better health and relationship, more wealth, and just be happy! Why not put the flow back into your life? Stop being Stuck!
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Cheri Hickman is the co-founder of Queen Bee Biz. As a life coach and emotional releasing expert, she along with her business partner, Vicki Kallman, support women over 40 to Bee Happy before during and after menopause. They take you from Grumpy to Happy in 60 seconds! Click here for 24/7 happiness.