I came across Maria’s informative and inspiring blog a few days ago. I loved her insights. As a wise mature woman who has also “been there and done that”, she gives all of us a gentle reminder to spend your time wisely. Also Rome was not built in a day. Be patient- change can be good! I love the insight about Barbie and the video! Thank You, Maria!
I’ve been thinking about time.
I was struck this week by Vice President Joe Biden’s decision not to run for President. I was struck by the idea that he said he was “out of time” to launch a winning campaign.
I know Joe Biden and I deeply admire him, as a man, as a husband, a father and a public servant. His words got me thinking a lot about time. In our society that is so rushed, so fast, people are always saying “I don’t have any time to do this.” Or, “I ran out of time to do that.” I’ve said it myself more times than I care to admit.
Time gets away from us all, not just those trying to run for President. Joe Biden’s words got me thinking about how I’m spending my time. It got me thinking about whether I was running out of time in some area of my own life.
I’m about to start a new decade of life and I want to be more mindful of my time. I want to make sure I’m allocating it to the right people, the right projects. I want to make sure I make time for those who love me, for those who need me, for those who fill up my life. My time is mine. Mine to give away. It’s also mine to guard.
I’ve often felt exasperated with how long some things take (i.e. I was struck by this ad video that said it took Barbie 59 years to get it right). I’ve often felt rushed with how fast some things move or change. But as I’ve grown older, I’ve come to realize that some things like grief or forgiveness just take the time they do. It’s like giving birth. You cant rush it.
Some people’s process is slow and deliberate, others move so fast that we are left trying to catch up. Sometimes we all run out of time.
The truth is, I’m Barbie’s age. More than likely I have less time on this earth in front of me than I have behind me. But like Barbie, I want to get it right. So the question in front of me and you, no matter your age, is this: What to do with your time? How do you spend it? Who do you spend it with?
I want to spend it in deep connection with those I love. I want to spend it learning and growing, evolving and laughing. I want to spend more time being grateful. I want to spend it imagining what more I can do with my time here on earth. I want to spend it in conversation with God. I want to spend it writing. I want to spend it helping others as others have helped me. I want to spend it with people who value me and, yes, even with people who challenge me. Challenge me to be better, to be wiser, to be kinder. I want to spend it in nature and I want to spend it being a lot less worried about what people think. Yes, I don’t want to spend it one more minute worried about what the hell people are thinking.
I’ve met so many people who said “I wish I had more time.” “More time to spend with my kids.” “More time to spend with my friends.” “More time to do the things I really loved to do.”
There is no time like now to make time for what you really want to do. Whether you want to run for office, learn to cook or write your story, it’s all the same. Time runs out on all of us. Don’t spend any of yours worried about how others are seeing you or what others are thinking of you. Trust me, I’ve done that and it’s such a waste of time.
Today I hope you spend less time worried about what you’re not doing and more time imaging what you, and only you, can do with your time here on this earth. Don’t let it run out, make it count.
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